Through the study of human history we understand that conflict is inevitable. Having the flexibility and mastery of conflict resolution is a mark of maturity and grace. Reconciliation is an essential element in maintenance of relationships. There must be tools in your aresonal that may be easily deployed to quickly build cohesion and solidarity The bricks and mortar of relationship are not emotion, or superficial fancies that have no lasting foundation..
Any institution that has longevity must have at its core some stick-to -it-ness, preservence and genuine selflessness. The basis of the union must not be about administering correction to others. It must be a process of constant self examination. Before you can create a union it is wise to know who you are. Know what is important to you. Knowing where your boundaries are. True Koninia requires the practice of virtues. Patience, understanding, forebear, verbal restraignt and temperance in the bblical sense. The focus must not be the assignment of innocence or guilt upon each infraction. Relationships are where we learn about ourselves. The focus must not be the assignment of innocence or guilt upon each infraction. Relationships are where we learn about ourselves. We get a clearer picture of our own values when we respond to others.We get a clearer picture of our own values when we respond to others.
T\Note there is a distinct difference in correction and punishment. In correction the clear goal is to change the behavior. In punishment the aim is not so much correction as is to issue adjudication and issue punitive reciprocity. Both of these factors have their place.
Like any poker game, "you got to know when to hold them and you got to know when to fold them". You must be perceptive early on. At the center of your being there must be true compatibility. Relationships that are misaligned from the begining are a waste of time. Individuals that have no core compatibility but sex or monetary exploitation are doomed from the start!!!!.There must be a senergy of goals,and expectations in a harmonious relationship. A oneness in focus, goals purpose and intent goes a long way in preventing crossed feeligs. Hidden agendas , falsehood, misrepresented goals will cause a crash in any arena.
It is always best to have clearly defined goals from the onset. If it is worthwhile it will require time, honesty,sacrifice and integrity. Whether in business, courtship or friendshipbe honorable. By placing ones cards on the taable gives all parties the chance to see what is being offered. At that point you can buy into the situation, share opinions, offer compromise options or bought out.. It is further good to periodically take an evaluation of where, what who amd why periodically. You will want to to determine if your mutual goals are coming online.
In conclusion we must appreciate that in the multitude of counselors wisdom is found. Maintaining a teachable attitude is always helpful. The wise and successful are primarily structured planners. Planning should be part and parcel of any successful affair. At the nucleus of the planning process is having a evaluation module which charts milestones. Therefore,set milestones and markers they will become indefensible forecasters. Their reflection lights the pathway. They help you to ask hard questions of yourself. Where are younow, how long did it take me to get here? Where do we go from hee? Answering question such as this will help you transition from historicity to excellence.
From the biblical perspective relationships are a mirror of our connectedness to the creator. Every shortcoming allows us to see just how much of a shortfall we have sustained. The Fall of Adam and his race cannot be overcome outside of the saving grace of a merciful God and Father. Take every opprutunity to reflect on where you stand in the light of that ultimate relationship and pray. Pray that everyone involved will be reconciled to God. Pray thaat he is gloridied and men draw nigh unto him through each experience. We can truly say we are close to God when we can without hidden agendas reach out to our fellow man.
Emotional wholeness cannot take place when there are two opposing forces ralling for the control of ones emotions, will and chipping away at the soul. One must make straight paths. The crooked and preverse must be put to death, divorced, anialated, decimated form ones character. Progress will be mde when only one force is in control.. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
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